“Then said Joab, I may not tarry thus with thee. And he took three darts in his hand, and thrust them through the heart of Absalom, while he was yet alive in the midst of the oak.”
My Notes
What Does 2 Samuel 18:14 Mean?
"Then said Joab, I may not tarry thus with thee. And he took three darts in his hand, and thrust them through the heart of Absalom, while he was yet alive in the midst of the oak." Absalom, fleeing after his rebellion fails, gets caught by his hair in an oak tree. A soldier reports it to Joab but won't kill Absalom because David ordered his son's life spared. Joab has no such restraint: he takes three darts and plunges them into Absalom's heart while he hangs alive in the tree.
Joab's action directly violates David's explicit command ("Deal gently for my sake with the young man, even with Absalom," 18:5). Joab makes a military calculation that David's paternal love won't: Absalom alive means future rebellion. Joab's pragmatism overrides his king's order.
Reflection Questions
- 1.When has a 'practical' decision violated a principle you were supposed to honor?
- 2.How do you navigate the tension between pragmatism and obedience when they conflict?
- 3.What does David's grief over Absalom teach about the cost of even necessary consequences?
- 4.When has a 'solution' in your life created worse pain than the problem it solved?
Devotional
Three darts. Into the heart. While he was still alive, hanging from a tree by his hair. Joab kills Absalom with the cold efficiency of a man who has calculated the cost of mercy and decided it's too high.
David said: deal gently with him. Joab heard the order and ignored it. Because Joab is a realist who understands something David can't accept: a living Absalom will try again. The rebellion will restart. More people will die. David's love for his son is making him militarily foolish, and Joab isn't willing to let sentimentality create another civil war.
Joab is right about the politics. And Joab is wrong about the obedience. His calculation is sound — Absalom alive is a future threat. His disobedience is indefensible — the king gave an order. This is the tension Joab lives in throughout David's reign: his judgment is often better than David's, and his authority is always less. He's the general who's smarter than his king and subordinate to him simultaneously.
The three darts in Absalom's heart will break David's heart. "O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! would God I had died for thee" (18:33). The father's grief will be so intense that it turns the military victory into a funeral. The army that won the war will come home in silence, ashamed of winning, because the king is weeping for the enemy.
Some solutions create worse problems than the ones they solve. Joab eliminated the threat and shattered his king. The darts that killed Absalom also killed something in David that never fully recovered.
Commentary
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Then said Joab, I may not tarry thus with thee,.... It is not worth while to talk with thee any longer, nor must I lose…
I may not tarry ... - i. e., lose time in such discourse.
I may not tarry thus with thee - He had nothing to say in vindication of the purpose he had formed.
Thrust them through…
Here is Absalom quite at a loss, at his wit's end first, and then at his life's end. He that began the fight, big with…
three darts Since the word used means elsewhere rodsor staves(Exo 21:20; 2Sa 23:21), and the wounds inflicted were not…
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