“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”
My Notes
What Does Proverbs 18:22 Mean?
Solomon makes a direct, practical observation: finding a wife is finding something good. The Hebrew word for "good" (tov) is the same word God uses in Genesis when he looks at creation and calls it good. A wife isn't just pleasant — she's a reflection of divine goodness.
The second clause connects marriage to divine favor: "obtaineth favour of the LORD." Marriage, in this framework, is not just a human arrangement. It's a channel through which God's favor flows. Finding a wife and receiving God's blessing are linked.
In its original context, Proverbs is a father instructing a son. The book consistently warns against toxic relationships and praises wisdom embodied in a good partner. This verse is one piece of a larger argument that who you choose to walk with is one of the most consequential decisions you'll make.
The verse is descriptive, not prescriptive — it's saying what is generally true, not issuing a command that everyone must marry. Proverbs operates in the genre of wisdom literature, which deals in patterns and principles rather than absolute rules.
Reflection Questions
- 1.What does it mean to you that a wife is described using the same word — 'good' — that God used for creation?
- 2.How do you balance hoping for marriage with trusting God's timing and provision?
- 3.In what ways does culture's messaging about marriage conflict with the simplicity of this verse?
- 4.If this verse works in both directions, what does it look like to be the kind of person who is 'a good thing' to find?
Devotional
In a culture that sends mixed messages about marriage — it's everything, it's outdated, it's about finding your soulmate, it's about settling — Solomon cuts through the noise with something simple. A good marriage is a good thing. Full stop.
But notice the word: findeth. Not "settles for" or "falls into" or "lucks into." Finding implies intention, searching, discernment. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It's sought with wisdom.
And the favor of the Lord piece is worth pausing on. If you're married, your marriage isn't just a human contract. It carries divine weight. If you're single and hoping for marriage, this verse doesn't rush you — but it affirms that what you're hoping for is genuinely good.
This verse also raises a quiet challenge: are you being the kind of person who would be a "good thing" to find? The verse works in both directions. The goodness isn't just received — it's embodied.
Commentary
Trusted original commentary from respected historical Bible scholars and theologians.
Whoso findeth a wife,.... A good one; so the Septuagint, Vulgate Latin, Syriac, and Arabic versions, supply it; and so…
The sense seems to require, “Whoso findeth a good wife,” as in some Chaldee manuscripts; but the proverb writer may be…
Note, 1. A good wife is a great blessing to a man. He that finds a wife (that is, a wife indeed; a bad wife does not…
Compare:
"Happy is the husband of a good wife;
And the number of his days shall be twofold.
A brave woman rejoiceth…
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