“Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel.”
My Notes
What Does Proverbs 27:9 Mean?
Solomon uses a sensory comparison: the way ointment and perfume delight your heart — that physical pleasure, that lift — is what a friend's heartfelt counsel does for your soul.
The phrase "hearty counsel" is literally "counsel of the soul" in Hebrew. This isn't surface-level advice or casual opinion. It's counsel that comes from the deep places of another person's soul, directed at the deep places of yours.
The comparison to ointment and perfume isn't trivial. In the ancient world, fragrant oils were associated with healing, celebration, and honor. They were applied to wounds and worn at feasts. Good friendship functions the same way — it heals and it celebrates.
"Sweetness" translates a Hebrew word that can mean pleasure or delightfulness. The friendship Solomon describes isn't just useful. It's delightful. It's something you experience with your whole self — the way fragrance fills a room.
Reflection Questions
- 1.Who in your life offers 'counsel of the soul' — wisdom that reaches the deep places? What makes their counsel different?
- 2.Why do you think Solomon compares friendship to perfume rather than something more practical?
- 3.What's the difference between advice and 'hearty counsel'? When have you experienced the latter?
- 4.What does it take to build the kind of friendship where this kind of deep counsel can happen?
Devotional
There's a kind of friendship that feels like walking into a room full of something beautiful. Not just helpful, not just reliable — genuinely sweet. The kind where someone says exactly what your soul needs to hear, and something in you opens up.
Solomon compares it to perfume. That's an interesting choice. Perfume doesn't demand attention — it fills the space quietly. You notice it without being assaulted by it. And it lingers. Long after the conversation is over, something from it stays with you.
Hearty counsel — soul counsel — is different from advice. Advice tells you what to do. Soul counsel sees you, understands what you're actually carrying, and speaks into the deepest part of it. Not everyone can do that. It requires the kind of friendship where someone has earned access to your real self.
Do you have that person? The one whose words are like ointment — healing, fragrant, a genuine delight? And are you that person for someone else? Because this kind of friendship isn't accidental. It's cultivated. It requires vulnerability from both sides.
What friendship in your life smells like perfume?
Commentary
Trusted original commentary from respected historical Bible scholars and theologians.
Thine own friend, and thy father's friend forsake not,.... Who have been long tried and proved, and found faithful;…
Here is, 1. A charge given to be faithful and constant to our friends, our old friends, to keep up an intimacy with…
by Lit. from i.e. proceeding from, or (as R.V.), that cometh of.
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